If I give you something, it is yours, no strings attached. If you give me something I am grateful, but it is a kindness our friendship does not have to depend upon.
Who owes whom? Are we in competition? Is this a race where one person glows with accomplishment and the other sags from running and getting nowhere?
No, there is no need to keep score.
It wearies the soul and spirit so that it cannot fit the slot of friendship. "