With every breath, the old moment is lost, a new moment arrives. This is something Buddhist mediators know. We breathe in and we breathe out. In so doing, we abide in the ever-changing moment. We learn to welcome and accept this entire process. We exhale, and we let go of the old moment. It is lost to us. In so doing, we let go of the person we used to be. We inhale, and we breathe in the moment that is becoming. We repeat the process. This is meditation. This is renewal. It is also life. Often when we have lost something, we blame ourselves. People blame themselves if their partners cheat or their children become ill, but it isn't spiritually intelligent to blame ourselves. There are many factors involved with each event, and we can't control the ungovernable world. Getting more in touch with your feelings about the major and minor losses in your life can help you heal and forgive yourself. This can be an important first step on the road back to wholeness.