Choosing a Cycle....

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end.
If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
 You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” 
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished:
tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. 
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.Closing cycles. 
Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
 by Paulo Coelho

3 comments:

  1. Yes, Surjit, that is important to know and act upon. When something is no longer effective, it is time to close the door on it. Letting go in a healthy way saves you from much distress, as is being willing to seek new options that are beneficial and balanced.

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  2. Yes, I fully agree with you Cinderella.Clinging to the past doesn't help us.You have rightly said:...'Letting go in a healthy way saves you from much distress..'
    Thanks for sharing your insights.
    God bless.

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  3. AnonymousJuly 28, 2011

    EVERYONE HAS HIS OWN VIEW ON DIFFERENT REALITIES OF LIFE SOME FEEL PAIN FROM PAST AND SOME GOT THE REASON TO LIVE.... THNX

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