Why We Can't Tolerate Criticism

"A lady came to me complaining that she is hurt by even small criticisms coming from others. She said she was very sensitive. I asked her to stop using that word. I said, 'You are not sensitive. A really sensitive person will be porous; she will allow the words to pass through her. Only arrogant people get hurt.
You are strong like a stone, which is why words come and hit you. A sensitive person would have allowed the words pass through her; she will never suffer. Even if someone is deliberately rude, a sensitive person understands where such a person is coming from and is, therefore, not, defensive.
Suffering is always from arrogance and never from sensitivity.A sensitive person will suffer on account of another person in distress, not for oneself.
You suffer from words when you stop them, when you resist them, when you create your own meaning out of them. When we do not create our own meanings out of words, we do not suffer.
We play with words. We always choose nice words to support our ego. We do not say, 'I am hurt because I am arrogant.' We always use polished words such as, 'I am hurt because I am sensitive.' Please don't cheat yourself with such words..."
Do you agree?
llllllllll
Source:(Internet)

28 comments:

  1. At first I did not agree, but I kept reading and I understand what you are saying now and I do agree. VERY thought provoking post! Thank you!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Hi Surjit...

    This is one of my favorite articles you have posted!

    There was a time in my life when I was very hurt over the simpist criticism or nastiness.

    This mind created a fear... a fear of being criticized, and it created a need to please others rather than please the divine.

    I so appreciate your thoughts on this!

    Blessings to you Surjit,

    Jen

    ReplyDelete
  3. Thanks La Chanson de Phoenix,for your nice comments about my post. I am glad that you have liked it.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Thanks Jennifer, for your motivating comments. Your words always inspire me. God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Hello,what an eye opener this post is and it came at the right time for me.I always tend to think I am sensitive when I get hurt by peoples words....now you are giving me different food for thought!
    Just recently, someone made remarks to me which hurt me, and I said to a friend:'why am I so sensitive...these remarks shouldnt hurt me?'....now this post of yours has me taking a new look at myself...and my attitude.
    A lesson to be learnt..
    Thanks Surjit, hope you are having a wonderful weekend ! :)

    ReplyDelete
  6. Many thanks JesseTheCat, for sharing your personal experiences. I am glad that you have liked my post.
    I really value your meaningful participation.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  7. This post carries a message that I will be reflecting on for some time Surjit. At first I wanted to disagree, none of us likes to think of ourselves as being arrogant. But I realize, that in the deeper sense, this is true. When we let our ego serve as our filter we perceive things incorrectly, and often hurtfully. The true essence of spiritual enlightenment would be, as you say, to let such things pass thru us. It is a path to seek. Thank you for this teaching.

    ReplyDelete
  8. I am glad Josie Two Shoes, that you have liked my post. Thanks for sharing your valuable views.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  9. We always have our own interpretation of the meaning of the words. Like it or not, that's the truth of us, human being, since we've been raised differently.

    Looking back into criticism, have to admit that it's not easy to accept that. The only thing that makes me easy is by asking the meaning of the words, to avoid my own interpretation of the criticsm.

    Have a nice happy week end Surjit

    ReplyDelete
  10. I am like the girl that you mentioned and easily affected by others. =(

    Thanks for the advices.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Hi tere616,
    Thanks for adding your insightful views to my post making it more meaningful. I value your participation.
    Good luck.

    ReplyDelete
  12. Thanks Keeyit, for your visit to my page and sharing your personal views. God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Hi Surjit,

    Thanks for a great post! Indeed, we hurt ourselves when we become arrogant.

    "The one who anger you conquer you"

    Blessings
    Let's Acquire Wisdom and Live with Passion

    ReplyDelete
  14. I was porous, but like sponge. I soaked up all the hurts of the world aound me and got weighed down. It hurt me to carry all that by myself. I learned to take responsibility for my life and allow others to take responsibility for theirs. I came to be at peace with myself. There is no need for struggle or defense when you are comfortable in your own skin. If we know who we are in the eyes of the Divine, and know how our Creator cares for the smallest of injuries we feel, then it is easier to heal from them, it is easier to be shielded (tho not like a stony shield) from pain. The white Light surrounds us. Light dispels darkness. Light heals. So shine your light. Be the peace.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Truthful words :
    '..."The one who anger you conquer you"...'
    Thanks Sam Chan for adding your words of wisdom to my post.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  16. I fully endorse your valuable views
    Robin Lee Sardini:
    '....There is no need for struggle or defense when you are comfortable in your own skin. If we know who we are in the eyes of the Divine...'
    Thanks for sharing your insights.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Hi Surjit!

    How true! We often use such a nice term as Sensitive to defend ourselves when it is in fact our inner devil (Ego) at work.

    Thanks for the enlightening post! This is a short one but what you have written really hit the nail on the head!

    Blessing to you Surjit!

    I really look forward to such enlightening posts from you!

    ReplyDelete
  18. Hi WaterLearner,
    Great words of wisdom:
    ....'We often use such a nice term as Sensitive to defend ourselves when it is in fact our inner devil (Ego) at work....'
    Thanks for sharing your down to earth thoughts.Your words always inspire me.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Wonderful post n i agree ARROGANCE (EGO) will always bring harm..so dont be ego..think and listen to others as well!

    Best wishes surjit

    ReplyDelete
  20. Thanks Anits, for sharing your valuable thoughts. Your participation is always inspiring.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  21. This reminds me of a quote I once read:

    "If you're truly humble, neither praise nor criticism would affect you."

    ReplyDelete
  22. Yes, perfectly true words:
    "If you're truly humble, neither praise nor criticism would affect you."...
    Thanks Amel's Realm for sharing.God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  23. This is one of the best posts I have ever seen. I think I am like that--> get hurt by criticism and always trying to make our own meaning of others' words.

    Arrogance hurts as you put yourself on a high pedestal, and when someone shakes you up you fall down as you are on too high a pedestal; you get hurt.

    I think I have to learn on the wordplay too- stop cheating myself and be honest, don't cover up after myself!

    Thank you for the post!

    ReplyDelete
  24. Hi Mr Fong,I fully aagree with your words of wisdom:
    '....Arrogance hurts as you put yourself on a high pedestal, and when someone shakes you up you fall down as you are on too high a pedestal; you get hurt...'
    Thanks for sharing. I value your participation.God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  25. Very very helpful Surjitji,I used to get offended very easily but the Holy Spirit (the Spirit of Jesus) helped me get victory over it.
    What you say is true I must save it and share this insight with others. Thank you.

    ReplyDelete
  26. I am glad Amritaji, that you have liked my post. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
    God bless.

    ReplyDelete
  27. Wow! Surjit, I hadn't ever thought about it. Until now. I agree--and I need to work on that myself. Feel free to criticize me anytime, I'll use that as practice!

    ReplyDelete
  28. I am glad Stacey that you have liked my post.
    Criticism should not be for the sake of criticism..it should be constructive one.
    Thanks for sharing your views. My best wishes.

    ReplyDelete