Loneliness and Solitude


In our modern world, we often define ourselves in terms of our relationships with others but forget the relationship that we share with our inner selves. Solitude is the best way to get to know ourselves.

Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely; perhaps it is the bitterest form of loneliness.
On the contrary, solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself.

Solitude is desirable. It is a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company.

what do you think?

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Source:Soul Curry Magazine

26 comments:

  1. I LOVE me solitude. BRING IT ON!!! ;-D I need my "me time" every day in order to be able to function well. Solitude is a gift (having lived in a NOISY small alley for 27 years in Indo, it feels WONDERFUL to be here in this quiet little village where solitude abounds). ;-D

    I felt lonely during the first weeks I moved to Finland. I tried to deny it, but it got worse. It was when I acknowledged that I was lonely, then the power of the feeling ceased to exist. I found that being lonely wasn't bad. It was just a state of mind.

    After that, I could start finding an outlet for my thoughts and feelings through blogging. Thus I no longer feel lonely, THANKS to blogging. ;-D

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  2. Hi Surjit!

    You are right! As far as the physical world outside us is concerned, there is no difference while we are in a state of loneliness or solitude. But the state of our Inner World defines the difference.

    I remember when I was in Germany, there was a park very near to the small village I stayed. Just hanging over a tree at the entrance of the park was a banner saying "Stille ist ein Geschenk" meaning Silence is a gift. A whole universe exists deep within us. If we are quiet and still enough, we will appreciate whatever external conditions we are in.

    My Shallow Views & Blessings Surjit!

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  3. Many thanks Amel's Realm, for sharing your personal experiences.I fully appreciate your views.
    My best wishes.

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  4. ...'But the state of our Inner World defines the difference...'
    Water Learner,I admire your profound views expressed above.
    Thanks for adding your insights to my post making it more meaningful.
    God bless you.

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  5. Hi Surjit,

    Thanks for the good explanation about the difference between Loneliness and Solitude.

    Indeed, it is possible to be with people and still feel lonely.

    All of us need solitude time to discover our inner selves. It is our inner selves that really drives us. We can only examine ourselves more often when we are alone.

    God bless you, Surjit!

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  6. hi surjit thx for that post i always was thinking about both but didnt understand well untill i read your post coz i always tell myself its good to be alone (solitude) in order to know my self better and realize more about what i want to be...and to be alone (loneley) not talking to anyone if im in bad mood or not well ofcourse this is not right but sometimes it happens to me
    best wishes

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  7. Martha MihalyAugust 15, 2007

    Perhaps because I am an only child, perhaps it is my nature, but I have always sought out solitude. It took my husband many years to understand that when I seek solitude it is not becuase I am angry, but because I need to be grounded within myself rather than to be flooded by others.

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  8. Sam, I agree with you. We all need time to be with our ownselves...
    Thanks for sharing your opinion. My best wishes.

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  9. Thanks Lili, for sharing your own experiences and adding your valubale views to my post.Good luck.

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  10. Martha, I appreciate your insightful views:
    ....' but because I need to be grounded within myself rather than to be flooded by others....'
    Thanks and good luck.

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  11. It is good to point out the difference between aloneness and solitude.

    I don't think I have ever been lonely even though I spend many hours each day in solitude.

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  12. Thanks Vic Grace, for sharing your meaningful views.

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  13. Of course solitude is better..the one who feel lonely is the most unlucky moment!

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  14. There is no true solitude or loniless if you are always with God. I hope I understood the message for today correctly. Blessings Surjit~Jackie

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  15. I agree with you Anits.Solitude gives you an opportunity to be with yourself.Thanks and good luck.

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  16. Universal truth:
    .....'There is no true solitude or lonleness if you are always with God..,
    Shinade,I admire your insight.Really one is never alone or lonely when he or she feels in the company of the Almighty.
    Thanks for adding your insightful views to my post.
    God bless you.

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  17. hello, I love being by myself, its when I feel most at peace, dont know why.I am also most creative when left to my own devices...some wonderful posts always on your blog.Have a great day further, Sanjit ! :)

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  18. Thanks Jessethecat, for your nice words and sharing your personal experiences. My best wishes

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  19. Hi Surjit,

    I have observed that there are those who find solitude uncomfortable... for some there is a fear of getting to know oneself... and yet, it is only though the discovery and honor that we can find peace.

    Blessings to you my friend,

    Jen

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  20. Nice comments surjit. For me to be alone because I am lonely is not solitude. Solitude I believe could also be achieved even with the company of others. It is like God holding my hands or looking at me in the eye. It is a mystical oneness with someone you love. A mystical union that transport our soul into that strange quiteness, of peace and love. Thats how I look at it. May His grace be upon you always.

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  21. Very truthful words:
    ...'for some there is a fear of getting to know oneself'...
    Jennifer, I fully agree with your thoughts.It is only through discovery our ownself that we find peace and happiness.
    Thanks for adding your insights to post. Good luck.

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  22. Very profound thoughts:
    '...It is like God holding my hands or looking at me in the eye'...
    Thanks Norie, for making my post more meaningful by adding your valuable views.
    My best wishes and God bless you.

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  23. Yes, a very good post Surjit. In my life loneliness has never been a problem, not the solitude really. I always use to say -m better alone than in bad company :) but this asside, we need our moments of loneliness to more appreciate the company of people we like to be with. We need solitude in order to appreciate the contact we have with our innerself as well. And I like your blog a lot :)

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  24. I agree with your words of wisdom TatianaV:
    ....'We need solitude in order to appreciate the contact we have with our innerself as well...'
    Thanks for adding your valuable thoughts to my post and your nice words about my blog.
    My best wishes.

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  25. I fully agree with you that we need to look within ourselves to know oneself in a better way. If our search is honest we'll find a brand new person inside us.

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  26. Amritbir, I fully agree with your noble thoughts.Thanks for adding your insights to my post making it more meaningful.
    My best wishes.

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