Self Esteem


"Too many people over value what they are not and under value what they are."

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"Self esteem is nothing but an overall judgement of the self which, in turn, colours our personal, social and official life.We become what we believe ourselves to be.If our belief in ourselves is shaky, we will be unable to grasp the richness of our life's experiences.Self esteem determines whether we will be leaders or followers.A healthy self image allows us to assimilate within us the compliments paid to us and the successes we have achieved. So


"self esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves."

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15 comments:

  1. Wow! This was a very clear and precise definition of self esteem! Our recent generation of children were raised to encourage self esteem however, I think people though well intentioned pursued it from the wrong angle and tried to convince children that they were wonderful just because. This doesn't work. We all need to be valued for what we are! This was a terrific post Surjit, hats off to you!

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  2. What I said didn't sound very clear to me after I wrote it. I hope you understand what I was trying to say?

    I was saying that people concentrated on telling children oh you are so wonderful which was great but it failed to find real reasons for them to hold onto. Each of us is indeed wonderful but the focus needs to be something that each individual can wrap their minds around. When praise is given without merit it doesn't help the person but that same person does have qualities that would deserve praise. There I hope that made more sense. Sorry to hog so much comment space!

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  3. Very good analogy of the truth of self-esteem. So many of us are not able to keep things in the positive... good post as usual...

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  4. I agree with you Desiree, when you say that 'when praise is given without merit,it does not help', rather they become conceited or egoistic.Thanks for adding your valuable views.Best wishes.

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  5. Thanks Lyn, for sharing your experienced views.

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  6. Every one need self esteems..thanx for the good post!

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  7. Yes Anits, you are right.Thanks for sharing your views.

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  8. Self esteem is good. But do not over esteem or lower esteem yourself. Be on the middle path. Your posts are great. They give valuable insight. Thank you.

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  9. You have rightly said,Mahesha.Maintaining a balance of self esteem is not only necessary but essential.

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  10. I missed your post while I was offline. They always make me think and that is a good thing.

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  11. Welcome back Sylvia.Your kind words always motivate me.Thanks for your continuous support.

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  12. Surjit hello there!

    Much wisdom in your words :)

    As you all have stated balanced self-esteem is desired.

    I was always put on a pedestal since I was a goodie two shoes but eventually I felt like a freak and did whatever I could to fit in by doing bad things - I was tired of people expecting me to be perfect all the time.

    Too much of anything is unhealthy!

    Take care
    Tisha

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  13. Yes Tisha,you have rightly said that too much of any thing is unhealthy and healthy balance has to be maintained in life.Thanks for sharing your valuable views.Best wishes.

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  14. He jurjit,

    A healthy self esteem is the perfect way to express how we need to understand ourselves.

    It means we do not think we are better or worse than others... it means we are authentic and whole.

    It means we are living from a place where we understand who we are.

    thanks for this great thougth surjit!

    Jen

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  15. Yes Jennier, you are right.A healthy self esteem is when we do not compare ourselves with others and understand ourselves who we are.Thanks for sharing your insightful views.

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